My mom passed at 95.

**Hamloc** · Apr 22, 2026, 07:34

Originally posted by Landdownunder View Post

My dear old mom passed at 95 big funeral good funeral.
Only about 3 left in the district.

Came on quite a bit quicker than thought hopes she may have gone on for few more months but we all noticed declines about 4 weeks before her passing.

But interesting stuff happened they explained palliative care and what to expect etc etc and what they would do.

Nurse made a comment she will be on top of the world top of her game maybe a week before her passing, instead of being awake mid morning for 2 or 3 hours and maybe in afternoon for a couple she will be mentally sharp and full of beans.

Exactly why happened good conversations no sign of dementia and was explained as endorphins in body and brain telling her to tell us to say good bye go out on a happy note.

A couple other things happened exactly as they said as well will fill you in later if your interested.

Not to many maybes and what ifs. She was meant to get hip replacement at 88 and surgeons said they basically dont do them after 85 unless super fit and complications can happen hindsight possibly should have bitten the bullet and done it. Another affliction giant cell arteritis heavy duty medication which had side effects not good ones possibly should have juggled medication a bit more to lessen side effects issue was two diametrically opposed opinions as what should happen and they left it to me "what do you want to do" Young gun no side effects or a elder specialist there are and will be side effects lets go steady as she goes. Young gun won the day basically corned me "lets knock this on the head with medication" if we dont get it by going softly softly its on you for ignoring advice.

But he was flying blind new medication tis a documentary from uk about it. The new medication plays havoc with immune system.

Hindsight now

My condolences on the passing of your mother Landdownunder. Just under 3 years ago my mother passed at the age of 92. In either case living into their nineties is quite an accomplishment. Always missed, never forgotten.

**sumdumguy** · Apr 22, 2026, 08:01

Sincere Sympathy for sure but a good, long life to be thankful for. Lucky are those who have good, hard-working kids that make their last years the best they can be and sounds like your mom had that. May she RIP.

**blackpowder** · Apr 22, 2026, 11:06

Condolences.

No regrets in life are sharper than those involving loved ones.
Sounds like you're blessed with none in this regard. Take care.

**blackpowder** · Apr 22, 2026, 11:11

I'll forever regret our free system making my mother's last weeks miserable and me not fighting the system tooth and nail. Long story, not to derail.

**Landdownunder** · Apr 23, 2026, 05:06

Prepaid funeral done in 1998 bit of fine print had to fork out $1800

**Blaithin** · Apr 25, 2026, 13:51

Sorry for your loss Mallee.

Hindsight is human nature but at 95 I think you're pretty safe just being glad she made it so long. Yeah you might have been able to get another year or two, or it may have been cut short a year or two. Pendulum can go either way.

Lost my Gramma a couple years back. She was 90. For quite a few years she'd almost annually get pneumonia/COPD complications right around Christmas and end up in the hospital. Funnily enough right when the family decided that it wasn't worth trying to keep pulling her through them and if it was going to be her time, let it be her time, she stopped having such critical episodes! She spent her last several years in a small, private palliative care home specializing in dementia patients. If you asked her, it was a terrible place, but for the most part they knew their stuff and were also pretty good at giving a heads up.

**Landdownunder** · Apr 25, 2026, 16:17

Originally posted by Blaithin View Post

Sorry for your loss Mallee.

Hindsight is human nature but at 95 I think you're pretty safe just being glad she made it so long. Yeah you might have been able to get another year or two, or it may have been cut short a year or two. Pendulum can go either way.

Lost my Gramma a couple years back. She was 90. For quite a few years she'd almost annually get pneumonia/COPD complications right around Christmas and end up in the hospital. Funnily enough right when the family decided that it wasn't worth trying to keep pulling her through them and if it was going to be her time, let it be her time, she stopped having such critical episodes! She spent her last several years in a small, private palliative care home specializing in dementia patients. If you asked her, it was a terrible place, but for the most part they knew their stuff and were also pretty good at giving a heads up.

she actually loved facilities was local 18 kms away I used to give her farm tours now and then get what you pay for in aged care in my opinion. If you can afford best of care pay for it. You hear horror stories about public aged care homes

**redleaf** · Apr 26, 2026, 14:32

My condolences. Never easy losing your parents, no matter what age.

**Blaithin** · Apr 26, 2026, 22:15

Originally posted by Landdownunder View Post

she actually loved facilities was local 18 kms away I used to give her farm tours now and then get what you pay for in aged care in my opinion. If you can afford best of care pay for it. You hear horror stories about public aged care homes

Her home was great, she just didn't think so Lol She forgot a lot of things but she never forgot that it wasn't "home".

Then there was the typical "they never feed me" type things that seems so common, especially in dementia patients. They don't seem to distinguish much between "I don't want to eat" and "they don't feed me"...

My mom passed at 95.