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farmaholic's Avatar Nov 3, 2016 | 21:11 31 The sad part about when someone chooses suicide it almost validates it as an option for those contemplating it. Like in families, close circle of friends, with in communities like we are now seeing on Reserves.

Sad, don't open that door for anyone else...keep it tightly locked!

This post means don't choose suicide so to make other's think it is an option.... that is what I mean about keeping that door tightly locked.... do not open that door and go through it. This has nothing to do with NOT TALKING ABOUT IT AND SHUTTING OTHERS OUT SO YOU HAVE TO SUFFER ALONE AND IN SILENCE. HONEST AN OPEN DIALOG IS WHAT IS NEEDED.

Somehow I feel like I needed to explain myself and defend the comment.
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Nov 3, 2016 | 21:28 32
Quote Originally Posted by parsley View Post
Thank you for your comments Mark

1. "Not sure if you are aware or not but they take 5 - 7.9% in the crowd funding site." Yes we are. This provides a service. The venue is international. It also allows people to pay online.

2. "Another option is you can also make donations at the Weyburn Credit Union. Crane Children trust fund. "


You will note that Boarderbloke already previously posted the option you listed:
"BOARDERBLOKE 18
NOV 3, 2016 15:53
http://obits.dignitymemorial.com/dig...71&mid=715081

3. Note the differentiation: The fundraising Larry set up provides IMMEDIATE money for the family's immediate needs. Michelle can withdraw in a day or two. The Crane children's trust fund is a trust account.

Just so there is no confusion. Pars
Like I said Carol, it's a great idea. Great idea because of the availability of immediate funds to help out in a difficult time. 👍 Reply With Quote
blackpowder's Avatar Nov 3, 2016 | 21:46 33 Let no one of us keep any door locked. Reply With Quote
Nov 3, 2016 | 22:14 34 Feel so terrible for his young family, please donate everyone! So many questions that will never be answered.
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Nov 4, 2016 | 00:01 35 There are many physiological problems that can really destroy the mind. Growths, tumors or fluid changed the gentlest, sweetest older lady into the total opposite. I actually saw two different people who were affected so drastically as to make them suicidal. Their problem was repaired and they reverted back to their old selves. In all fairness to Cotton, there might have been some physiological problem and it wasn't choice at all. Reply With Quote
Nov 4, 2016 | 00:36 36 Might be right dumguy. I believe Cotton had posted that he had been diagnosed with brain cancer.

None the less, an awful loss.

We should all remember to hug those we love, since you just never know in this world what lies around the next corner. Life can change in an instant. Reply With Quote
Blaithin's Avatar Nov 4, 2016 | 01:20 37 Just seen the fundraising page shared on the Canadian Farm Community Facebook page. Reply With Quote
Nov 4, 2016 | 01:24 38 Perhaps i have listened to Coast to Coast too often on night radio

But a strange thing happened to me the day Cotton died.

On Jun 24, 2016, I messaged Cotton on Facebook; for some reason worried about him. He did not reply.

He finally replied to me the evening of 7 October, 2016, and there was angst in his message.

I replied the next morning, saying
"Tell me about your health."

He never did reply.

But on Hallowe'en Night, 2016, at 3:30 or 4:00 in the morning I awoke and sat up in bed. I'm a sound sleeper. I rarely have dreams I can recall. I sleep like a log. But I awakened, and Cotton was in my mind.

There was no picture from a dream in my mind.. All I saw was black in my mind. No colour. No sound. No smell. Just this sense of blackness enveloped me; unpleasant it was. I'm rarely awakened in the nite. Usually cats yowling Or someone turning the door knob will have me awake instantly, coming from the days long gone when I awaited the children getting home.

But this was an unfamiliar sensation.

I ignored it, and went back to sleep.

Nov 1, 2016 passed with no incident or
feelings, but I had a message waiting for me the morning of November 2nd at 6:27 AM from his wife:

"Carol I'm writing with bad news that chad passed away yesterday. The kids and I are devastated but I know he really looked up to and held you in a regard and I thought you would want to know"

It stunned me. And then I recalled the darkness.

Was my awakening a phenomenon? A coincidence? Was I in another dimension? Was it a spirit? A transcendental experience? It was not my imagination

One thing is for sure... We do affect one another. Even if we don't realize it. But can two people who have never met each other communicate offline?

I just haven't figured out where the sensation came from. But should I know who sent it?

Paint me quite mad. Reply With Quote
blackpowder's Avatar Nov 4, 2016 | 03:27 39 There is more to Nature than science alone, parsley. Reply With Quote
Nov 4, 2016 | 06:46 40 Parsley, knowledge, worry and intuition. The brain never sleeps Reply With Quote
LouiseCarduner's Avatar Nov 4, 2016 | 10:50 41
Quote Originally Posted by Blaithin View Post
Just seen the fundraising page shared on the Canadian Farm Community Facebook page.
Awe, that was me. I shared it. Bless you all.

XO

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LouiseCarduner's Avatar Nov 4, 2016 | 10:51 42
Quote Originally Posted by blackpowder View Post
Let no one of us keep any door locked.
What a wonderful quote.... Reply With Quote
LouiseCarduner's Avatar Nov 4, 2016 | 10:53 43
Quote Originally Posted by LWeber View Post
Keep your head up as well as possible for the kids and know that you have many that are thinking of you.

Sincerely,
Larry Weber
Larry Weber, you are an amazing man.

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Nov 4, 2016 | 19:02 44 Thank you, Louise, for sharing our message, and also for your kind words during this difficult time for a farm family. Parsley. Reply With Quote
farmgal71's Avatar Nov 5, 2016 | 09:16 45 Thank you Parsley and Larry for helping us show the family that we cared deeply for Cotton and for his family. Reply With Quote
Nov 5, 2016 | 13:51 46 We are all deeply saddened by the passing of Cotton.
RIP
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Nov 5, 2016 | 20:15 47
Quote Originally Posted by blackpowder View Post
I sit and wonder how an anonymous internet poster has touched me at all.
I sit and ponder death yet again albeit in a different way.
I believed when my father died that it was a parents' job to show his children how.
I ruminate on the term 'mental illness' and know that it is a convenient catch all. Meaningless.
I sit in the bar and tell stories about all the 'counsellors' etc I've experienced.
I dont care what others think.
I want one person to see.
I would like for those who come after not to havta relearn it all.
I pray my children find someone as myself all through their life.
BP, when the going gets tough, the tough get going. Hang in there, always take the high road and know that some of us have gone through similar yet maybe worse stuff. Know you are not alone and you can call on me - no problemo! Reply With Quote